The admonition, "don't judge" is required to outrageous sizes in modern life. Also one of the most ridiculous, unsuitable, or self-serving habits prices a PASS by those determined not to slam. Discernment is jettisoned willy-nilly to avoid the look of being judgmental or reluctant to understand.
We're all the poorer for it, since appropriate subtleties of thought and habits go determinedly undetected.
It sounds worthy and unbiased to state, "I will not judge." The declaration suggests: I do not think I'm better compared to you. My habits isn't any various compared to your own. It further suggests external requirements do not use. All words and deeds are equal.
Choosing not to judge has become the unchallenged and deserving (see, that is a "judgment" word) objective. A declaration of truth (also if totally real) that sounds the the very least bit judgmental brings instant rebuke from all instructions, "Do not judge!"
That expression specifies our society - with everybody busily not evaluating... or discovering... or standing for any concept that could be construed as "better," or "greater," or "great for the globe."
The thinking goes such as this: To judge another person misbehaves (oops, among those darned judgment words, however it is usually allowed in this situation).
So I choose not to do it.
Rather, I must do the opposite - which is to avoid evaluating.
So when I do that I'm great and reasonable (more of those darned words).
The problem is, that is a simple instance of either-or thinking - judge versus not judge - choosing in between opposites. Either one is a verb - something one does. To attempt to do both (avoiding either one) sounds much less judgmental, but fallen leaves one paralyzed.
The expression, "don't judge" is totally misinterpreted and misapplied. It is not about doing something (or otherwise). It describes withstanding need to judge (or not), so you can be free to try something completely various. It describes a place within on your own where evaluating isn't feasible.
Go there. Disengage momentarily from attempting to change or fix points. Put on hold your choices. Value what's unraveling, without the need to understand it. Ahaaaaaaa... There is absolutely nothing needs doing. Tranquility rules.
See, it is a place within - an understanding, a place of clearness. And its name is DO NOT JUDGE. Whatever makes you want to slam or "fix" on your own or anybody else is a pointer to go there.
